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AFTER MANY DAYS by D. H. Lawrence

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Two people come together after a long time apart, but the speaker is unsure if the other person shares the same deep feelings.

Poet
D. H. Lawrence
Themes
identity, loneliness, love
The PoemFull text

AFTER MANY DAYS

D. H. Lawrence

I WONDER if with you, as it is with me, If under your slipping words, that easily flow About you as a garment, easily, Your violent heart beats to and fro! Long have I waited, never once confessed, Even to myself, how bitter the separation; Now, being come again, how make the best Reparation? If I could cast this clothing off from me, If I could lift my naked self to you, Or if only you would repulse me, a wound would be Good; it would let the ache come through. But that you hold me still so kindly cold Aloof my flaming heart will not allow; Yea, but I loathe you that you should withhold Your pleasure now.

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§01Quick summary

What this poem is about

Two people come together after a long time apart, but the speaker is unsure if the other person shares the same deep feelings. The speaker craves any genuine response — even if it's rejection — because the sting of polite indifference hurts more than a truthful hurt. The poem expresses the pain of emotional distance when all you really want is for someone to be honest with you.

§02Themes

Recurring themes

§03Line by line

Stanza by stanza, with notes

  1. I WONDER if with you, as it is with me, / If under your slipping words, that easily flow

    Editor's note

    The speaker begins with an unanswerable question: does the other person conceal a similar storm beneath their polished, social exterior? The term "slipping words" is crucial — the words slide away, lacking any real hold. They're compared to a loose garment, cloaking something the speaker suspects is fierce and vibrant beneath.

  2. Long have I waited, never once confessed, / Even to myself, how bitter the separation;

    Editor's note

    Here, the speaker acknowledges their denial — not only keeping their pain hidden from the other person but also from themselves. The reunion demands truthfulness. "How do we make the best / Reparation?" is an earnest, hesitant question: now that they’re face to face again, where do you even start to mend what the distance has fractured?

  3. If I could cast this clothing off from me, / If I could lift my naked self to you,

    Editor's note

    The clothing metaphor from the first stanza takes a turn here. Before, it was the other person's words that served as a garment; now, the speaker yearns to shed their own social facade and be fully vulnerable. The repeated "if" emphasizes how unattainable this seems. Importantly, the speaker expresses that even a rejection—something outright dismissive—would feel like a relief, as it would at least be genuine. Pain would allow the "ache" to surface, much like piercing a wound.

  4. But that you hold me still so kindly cold / Aloof my flaming heart will not allow;

    Editor's note

    "Kindly cold" stands out as the poem's most striking phrase — the other person is polite, even warm on the surface, yet emotionally unresponsive. The speaker's "flaming heart" struggles to accept this half-hearted treatment. The last two lines shift to a more intense sentiment: the speaker openly admits to loathing the other person for not expressing their true feelings or desires. It's a jarring, honest burst of anger following all that longing.

§04Tone & mood

How this poem feels

The tone shifts from quiet curiosity to simmering frustration, reflecting a sense of restlessness. Lawrence uses intimate and straightforward language—this isn't a refined lyric; it feels more like someone processing their thoughts under stress. The urgency is palpable: hearts race, words tumble out, clothes are shed, and wounds are embraced. By the last stanza, the initial tenderness has soured into something resembling contempt, lending the poem a raw honesty instead of sentimentality.

§05Symbols & metaphors

Symbols & metaphors

Clothing / garment
The social performance both individuals display—using polite language and a composed demeanor to mask their true emotions. The speaker yearns to strip it away and be seen for who they really are.
The wound / repulse
Paradoxically, rejection is seen as a gift. A wound would be more honest; it would create a pathway for the genuine emotions that have been suppressed. Here, pain is better than numbness.
Flame / fire ("flaming heart")
The speaker's inner life is ablaze — passionate, consuming, and impossible to hold back. This fiery intensity sharply contrasts with the "kindly cold" demeanor of the other person, creating an emotional dissonance that feels nearly tangible.
Nakedness
Not sexual in a literal sense, but rather emotional exposure — being seen without any pretense or shield. The speaker longs for this shared vulnerability and feels a deep anguish that it appears unattainable.

§06Historical context

Historical context

D. H. Lawrence wrote this poem in the early 1900s, a time when he was grappling with ideas about emotional authenticity and the harm caused by social norms—topics that also appear in his novels. He was quite critical of the English middle class's tendency to bottle up their feelings, and many of his early poems highlight the toll that kind of repression takes. "After Many Days" is part of his collection of more personal, confessional lyrics, likely influenced by his own complex relationships leading up to and during his marriage to Frieda von Richthofen in 1912. The title references a biblical phrase (Ecclesiastes 11:1, "after many days"), which adds a sense of overdue reckoning to the reunion. At 27, when he eloped with Frieda, the emotional intensity of poems like this one captures a man who had spent years stifling feelings he was just starting to acknowledge.

§07FAQ

Questions readers ask

It's about two people coming back together after being apart for a long time. The speaker is troubled by uncertainty about whether the other person shares the same deep feelings and is affected by their polite emotional distance. Ultimately, the speaker expresses a preference for outright rejection over being met with a calm kindness.

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