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ELEGY by D. H. Lawrence

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A grieving speaker talks to someone they've lost — a lover or a cherished person — and confesses that they are so drained by sorrow that they wish to fade into the sky and reunite with them in death.

Poet
D. H. Lawrence
Themes
death, loneliness, love
The PoemFull text

ELEGY

D. H. Lawrence

SINCE I lost you, my darling, the sky has come near, And I am of it, the small sharp stars are quite near, The white moon going among them like a white bird among snow-berries, And the sound of her gently rustling in heaven like a bird I hear. And I am willing to come to you now, my dear, As a pigeon lets itself off from a cathedral dome To be lost in the haze of the sky, I would like to come, And be lost out of sight with you, and be gone like foam. For I am tired, my dear, and if I could lift my feet, My tenacious feet from off the dome of the earth To fall like a breath within the breathing wind Where you are lost, what rest, my love, what rest!

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§01Quick summary

What this poem is about

A grieving speaker talks to someone they've lost — a lover or a cherished person — and confesses that they are so drained by sorrow that they wish to fade into the sky and reunite with them in death. The poem shifts from appreciating the beauty of the night sky to a soft, weary desire to release all ties to life. It's not filled with anger or theatrics; rather, it conveys a profound weariness that follows a significant loss.

§02Themes

Recurring themes

§03Line by line

Stanza by stanza, with notes

  1. SINCE I lost you, my darling, the sky has come near, And I am of it, the small sharp stars are quite near,

    Editor's note

    The speaker begins by sharing how grief has altered their view of the world. The sky feeling "near" is an unusual yet beautiful observation — losing someone can blur the line between the living and the dead. The stars appear "small" and "sharp," lending them a tangible, almost painful quality. The speaker isn’t merely gazing at the sky; they sense a connection to it, as if they're already halfway out of the realm of the living.

  2. The white moon going among them like a white bird among snow-berries,

    Editor's note

    Lawrence likens the moon gliding through the stars to a white bird weaving through white berries on a branch. This gentle, homey image is set against the expansive night sky, creating a sense of intimacy rather than coldness. The color white permeates the scene—moon, bird, snow-berries—evoking feelings of purity, stillness, and the delicate essence of things that exist beyond the everyday.

  3. And I am willing to come to you now, my dear, As a pigeon lets itself off from a cathedral dome

    Editor's note

    Here, the speaker's longing is clear: they are *willing* to die, or at least to free themselves from life. The image of a pigeon taking off from a cathedral dome is spot on — it's an everyday bird departing from a grand, sturdy, human-made structure, surrendering itself to the open sky. The cathedral also hints at something sacred, representing a boundary between the earthly and the spiritual. The speaker desires to do the same: release their grip on the solid world and drift toward their lost beloved.

  4. To be lost in the haze of the sky, I would like to come,

    Editor's note

    The word "lost" is used here for the first time in reference to the speaker, and it will resonate again in the following lines. Being "lost in the haze" doesn’t come off as scary; instead, it feels like a sense of relief. The broken line ending with "come" introduces a brief pause, a moment of hesitation, as if the speaker is mustering the courage to express the complete thought aloud.

  5. And be lost out of sight with you, and be gone like foam.

    Editor's note

    Foam is one of the most transient things in nature — it forms, glimmers in the light for a moment, and then disappears without a trace. The speaker yearns for just that kind of vanishing: not a dramatic end, but a gentle fading away. The phrase "lost out of sight *with* you" captures this sentiment — it's not despair for its own sake, but the longing of love that pulls toward reunion.

  6. For I am tired, my dear, and if I could lift my feet, My tenacious feet from off the dome of the earth

    Editor's note

    "Tenacious feet" is the emotional core of the poem. The feet don't *want* to hold on — the speaker's will has already faded — yet the body clings to the earth out of sheer biological stubbornness. "Tenacious" typically celebrates persistence, but in this context, it feels more like an accusation: the body continues to live even when the person inside is worn out. The "dome of the earth" reflects the cathedral dome from the second stanza, emphasizing that the living world is a magnificent yet burdensome structure the speaker yearns to escape.

  7. To fall like a breath within the breathing wind Where you are lost, what rest, my love, what rest!

    Editor's note

    The poem concludes with the word "rest"—repeated twice, resembling a sigh. The phrase "like a breath within the breathing wind" portrays death as entirely natural, a mere exhalation that blends into the world's larger rhythm. The exclamation mark on "what rest!" isn't celebratory; it captures the essence of someone picturing relief so clearly that they can nearly experience it. The beloved is referred to as "lost" in the wind, which maintains their presence as soft and spread out rather than tied to a specific afterlife.

§04Tone & mood

How this poem feels

The tone is quiet, weary, and tender. Lawrence doesn’t lash out at the loss or express grief in a dramatic way — the speaker is simply fatigued, and the poem carries a gentle, slow quality as if someone is speaking softly in the dark. A sense of longing flows through every stanza, yet it never veers into self-pity. The repeated phrases “my darling,” “my dear,” and “my love” maintain the poem's intimacy, resembling a private letter more than a public sorrow.

§05Symbols & metaphors

Symbols & metaphors

The sky / the haze
The sky symbolizes the afterlife—or at least the area beyond everyday existence where loved ones now reside. Its proximity following a loss indicates that the line between life and death has blurred for the speaker. The "haze" implies a gentle, indistinct fading rather than a strict separation.
The white moon and white bird
The moon gliding through the stars resembles a bird, bringing the immense cosmos down to a scale that feels small and alive. The pervasive white in the poem suggests purity, tranquility, and the lifelessness of those who have departed from the warmth of the world. Additionally, the bird serves as a recurring symbol in Lawrence's work, representing the soul or the liberation from earthly burdens.
The pigeon leaving the cathedral dome
The pigeon represents the speaker — a small, everyday bird breaking free from a massive, solid structure (the world, the body, civilization) and embracing the open air. The cathedral introduces a subtle sacred element, implying that this act of release carries a spiritual essence.
Foam
Foam represents the perfect, painless way to disappear — it forms for a moment, glimmers in the light, and then fades away without any fuss or trace. The speaker envisions an ideal death that isn’t dramatic; rather, it’s a peaceful fading from sight, merging back into something greater.
Tenacious feet
The feet symbolize the body's instinctive hold on life — the biological urge to survive that continues even when the conscious self is willing to release its grasp. They are "tenacious" not as a quality to admire but as a barrier, the final thing keeping the speaker connected to the ground.
A breath within the breathing wind
Breath is the simplest indicator of life, and picturing oneself as a single breath within the broader flow of the wind implies a death that isn't an end but rather a merging — the individual life rejoining the natural world that gave rise to it.

§06Historical context

Historical context

Lawrence wrote this poem in the years after his mother, Lydia Lawrence, passed away in December 1910. Her death hit him hard and had a direct impact on his autobiographical novel *Sons and Lovers* (1913). Many poems in his early collection, *Amores* (1916), revolve around this sense of loss. At just 25, Lawrence experienced the death of his mother, with whom he shared an unusually deep bond; she was not only his closest intellectual companion but also the person he credited for motivating him toward education and writing. This poem belongs to the English elegy tradition that features poets like Tennyson and Hardy, yet Lawrence completely removes any sense of formal consolation. There’s no talk of resurrection, heaven, or comfort — just a raw acknowledgment of exhaustion and a desire for dissolution. The free-verse style, characterized by long, breath-like lines, was already becoming Lawrence's hallmark at this stage in his career.

§07FAQ

Questions readers ask

Most scholars link this to the passing of Lawrence's mother, Lydia, in 1910, which shaped much of his early grief. However, Lawrence employs terms of romantic affection — "my darling," "my dear," "my love" — intentionally blurring the boundaries. The poem serves as an elegy for anyone whose loss leaves the speaker feeling adrift in life.

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