The Annotated Edition
THE WEARY WEDDING by Algernon Charles Swinburne
A young bride, compelled into marriage after her family murdered the knight she adored, navigates her wedding day feeling utterly devoid of spirit.
- Themes
- betrayal, death, love
§01Quick summary
What this poem is about
§02Themes
Recurring themes
§03Line by line
Stanza by stanza, with notes
O daughter, why do ye laugh and weep, / One with another?
Editor's note
The poem starts with a call-and-response between a mother and her daughter, the bride. The mother observes her daughter simultaneously laughing and weeping, which instantly indicates that something is seriously amiss. The refrain "One with another" resonates throughout, creating a chant-like rhythm that lends the poem the essence of a folk ballad or a ritual.
But weep ye winna the day ye wed, / One with another.
Editor's note
The mother attempts to comfort her daughter, promising she won't cry on her wedding day. The daughter responds — saying that tears dry up when the springs are dead — revealing she has moved beyond typical sorrow. She isn't merely anxious like a typical bride; she feels empty inside.
Too long have your tears run down like rain, / One with another.
Editor's note
The mother sees that her daughter has been crying for a long time. The daughter explains what happened: she lost a love, and that love was *killed* — not just lost by chance but "slain." The next stanza makes this clearer: her own father and brothers murdered the knight she adored.
Let past things perish and dead griefs lie, / One with another.
Editor's note
The mother encourages her daughter to move forward. The daughter's reply is brutally honest: she wishes she could stop crying, yet she also feels like she wants to die. She can't pretend that the past is behind her because it has shattered her.
Fair gifts we give ye, to laugh and live, / One with another.
Editor's note
The family gives joyful wedding gifts. In contrast, the daughter's counter-gifts are anything but cheerful — they bring thorns, tares, and tears. This exchange lays the groundwork for the lengthy list that follows, where every typical wedding question receives a somber response.
And what will ye give for your father's love? / One with another.
Editor's note
The catalogue of "gifts" begins. For her father, who played a part in her lover's death, she offers "fruits full few and thorns enough" — hardly anything pleasant, and a lot of suffering. For her mother, she gives tears and tares (weeds). The gifts are curses wrapped in the guise of a wedding inventory.
And what will ye give your sister Jean? / One with another.
Editor's note
The gifts to her sisters take a dark turn: a bier (a coffin frame) and a baby to wean for Jean; the end of life and the beginning of hell for Nell; earth's door and hell's gate for Kate. The bride isn’t wishing her family well — she’s handing out death.
And what will ye give your brother Will? / One with another.
Editor's note
Her brothers face grief, illness, a grave of turf, and the dust of death. These are the men who killed her knight. Her "gifts" to them come across as quiet, bitter curses — unable to seek revenge openly, she names their fates in the ritual language of the wedding.
And what will ye give your bauld bridegroom? / One with another.
Editor's note
"Bauld" means bold. The bridegroom faces a barren bed and an empty room — a marriage that will yield nothing and hold no one, as the bride's spirit has already departed. His friend travels a weary road to a weary end, while the bridesmaid is left to stitch together grief and braid sorrow.
And what will ye drink the day ye're wed? / One with another.
Editor's note
The poem turns to the well — a symbol of water that ultimately brings death. The bride insists that everyone must drink from it. Inside the well are the herb of death and the flower of sleep, fish embodying grace and sin, and birds that sing until they perish. It represents life itself, yet it only leads to death.
Is there ony draw-bucket to that well-head? / One with another.
Editor's note
The bucket dangles from a thread—green for grace, black for sin. This imagery feels delicate and unstable, hinting that the boundary between life and death, innocence and guilt, is narrow and easily shattered. The bride is caught on that thread.
And what will ye strew on your bride-chamber floor? / One with another.
Editor's note
The wedding chamber details have a somber tone: dust and sea sand cover the floor, bones of the deceased serve as the bed, grass and dust make up the gown, ash and blood form the wreath, a heavy heart replaces the lace, and a weary thought stands in for the ring. Each bridal tradition is turned into a burial rite.
And what shall the chimes and the bell-ropes play? / One with another.
Editor's note
The wedding bells play a tired tune; the wedding song echoes a tired word of a tired wrong. The repeated use of "weary" — also found in the poem's title — emphasizes exhaustion and resignation. This isn’t a celebration; it’s a test of endurance.
The world's way with me runs back, / One with another,
Editor's note
The bride contemplates the inversion of the world's order in her life: married in white yet buried in black, or married in black and buried in white — the hues of celebration and sorrow have flipped. Everything that typically signifies life now signifies death for her. The usual logic of the world doesn't fit her circumstances.
When she came out at the kirkyard gate, / (One with another)
Editor's note
The poem's narrative changes here, indicated by the row of asterisks. We transition from dialogue to a third-person scene. She steps out of the churchyard—a place associated with the dead—and encounters her bridegroom's mother. The grand green bed she inquires about is made of silk and gold, yet the description already evokes the image of a coffin.
She laid her cheek to the velvet and vair, / One with another;
Editor's note
"Vair" refers to a type of fur often used in luxurious clothing. The bride reclines in the bridal chamber, her golden hair cascading into the reeds. Her pleas to God — "deliver me from woe" and "release me from sorrow" — are the only direct prayers found in the poem, and they remain unanswered.
O mother, where is my lady gone? / (One with another.)
Editor's note
Another section break. Someone — the bridegroom's mother — reports that the bride is in the chamber making "sore moan." As the description unfolds, she takes on a more lifeless appearance: her hands resemble pale yellow amber, her tears trickle down into her hair, and the reed seeds are tangled in her hair like remnants from a grave.
He kissed her under the gold on her head; / (One with another)
Editor's note
The bridegroom kisses his new wife in four spots — her head, chin, shoulder, and breast. Each kiss exposes a body that feels lifeless: her eyelids are as cold as lead, there's barely any color in her chin, her throat radiates little warmth, and her breast-flowers resemble those of a dead river. These kisses serve as a grim examination, confirming that she has already departed.
What ails you now o' your weeping, wife? / (One with another.)
Editor's note
The bridegroom attempts to console her by calling her young and beautiful. However, she brushes off each compliment, questioning the significance of being young or beautiful. He then claims ownership, saying, "you are mine as long as I live." Her reply is the poem's most striking and unsettling line: she tells him he has wed the worm, he has wed the dust of death.
Yea, ye are mine, we are handfast wed, / One with another.
Editor's note
"Handfast" refers to being formally bound by a pledge. The bridegroom emphasizes the legal and social aspects of their marriage. However, the bride's last words pierce through everything: "Nay, I am no man's; nay, I am dead." She completely rejects his claim. She is tied to death, not to him. The poem concludes abruptly, offering no resolution or solace.
§04Tone & mood
How this poem feels
§05Symbols & metaphors
Symbols & metaphors
- The well
- The well the bride drinks from on her wedding day symbolizes life itself, yet it embodies the understanding that life inevitably leads to death. Its waters hold both grace and sin, while the birds sing until their time is up, and its thread is woven in green and black. It doesn’t provide nourishment; instead, it offers a glimpse of fate.
- The wedding gifts
- Each "gift" the bride mentions — thorns, tares, tears, graves, dust — carries a hidden curse. The act of giving gifts during the wedding transforms into a means for the bride's quiet revenge and her statement that this marriage is a death sentence.
- The bridal gown and wreath
- Grass and dust take the place of white fabric; ash and blood take the place of flowers. The wedding attire becomes burial attire. Swinburne flips bridal imagery to blur the line between marriage and death for this woman.
- The great green bed
- The bridal bed the bride requests — silk at the foot, gold at the head — is described in a way that resembles a coffin. She asks to be well-lined so she doesn't lie cold. It serves as both a marriage bed and a grave.
- Cold lead, pale amber, dead river-flowers
- The bride's body is described with chilling details during the bridegroom's kisses — her cold eyelids, pale chin, and lifeless breast-flowers evoke the image of a corpse. While she is physically there, she is spiritually and emotionally dead long before the poem concludes.
- The refrain "Mother, my mother"
- The repeated call to the mother serves as both a dialogue tag and a lament. It keeps the bride connected to her family—the very family that shattered her love—even as she curses them. It also resembles a child's cry for help, which undermines the wedding's façade of adult celebration.
§06Historical context
Historical context
§07FAQ
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